How To Get Back In The Habit..

By reading the title you probably have a picture of a nun in her religious attire.  That is considered a habit but that is not the habit that I am referring to here. :-)  Habit by way of definition means, ‘an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.’ - Dictionary.com.  It seems that we have a normal tendency to get tired and bored from doing the same things day in and day out.  However, if you look at the lives of very successful people, that is one thing that they all have in common.  They have set routines, schedules and practices, it is in doing the repetitious things that we begin to master and understand what we are doing.  Once you master a thing you can now find ways to improve upon it. 

We know that yet… we still don’t want to invest the time that it will take to develop and train ourselves.  Well, I have a secret to share with you.  You are being trained each and every day; the question is are you doing the training or is something/someone else training you?  Let me give you a clear example of this.   

Take a mother and her child; we will use a son in this illustration. 

Here is the conversation/scenario:

Mom:  Son come here

Son:  Okay

Mom:  Now

Son:  Okay

Mom:   Come here!

Son:  Mom, I’m doing something, hold on

Mom:  Boy, if you don’t get down here Im going to come and get you.

Son:  Okay, just a sec..

Need I go on?  Funny is it not?  Tell me whose training whom?  It looks like the son has trained mom to wait until he is ready to come to her.

Now the same scenario with dad:

Dad:  Son come here

Son: On my way.. (and he arrives in light speed timing!!)

Looks like dad did the training!!

So see again, we are always being trained but did you notice that when the son was training mom, mom had/carried all the frustrations and was upset.  Well, normally this is the way we will feel because we are not doing what’s needed.  When are we going to get off the Ferris Wheel and stop repeating the same mistakes, same ‘oh, I can’t believe I did it again’?  It is as simple as choosing to get off.  Yes, that easy!  Just like you paid your fare to board the ride you can just exit right off!!  The choice is up to you.  Life changes and we have to do the same; however, the direction that we decide to go should be our own choice!!!  Recommit to yourself that this is going to be your, in the words of my dear friends, Darryl & Cynthia Washington, “Your Best Year Ever!!!”  

Negativity two thumbs down!!

Have you come across people in your circle or path that are just plain ole negative?  They may be subtle in their comments, but bottom line its negativity.  You often find yourself justifying what you just said or why you just acted in a certain manner.  What is the point of it all?  We are all adults and have the common knowledge of how to act and what we need to do.  Now, correction is different and I am not talking or referring to that.  Negative people have a way of making your great day go south and sometimes way south.  I reflected to the Ally McBeal Show and I found myself sometimes wanting to stop the scene and reenact what I wanted to happen.  Oftentimes, I envisioned myself just smacking them across the face or just yelling, 'would you just shut up!' then I returned to reality with a smile on my face.  They are then standing there dumbfounded and asked me, 'what's funny?'  ‘Oh, nothing’ I replied.  How funny that exchange was! 

Have you realized how negativity can affect more than just you?  It affects your decisions, the direction of your day and what you will receive in return.  Well just like it’s a new year and you have vowed to do differently concerning some things, declare today that getting away from negative people is now on your list.  I tweeted this just the other day, ‘just because something didn’t work out for the next guy/gal doesn’t mean it disqualifies you from succeeding!’ So go for it, let the nay sayers continue on their path.  You just make sure you take another route away from them.  I realized that negative people will always have something bad to say no matter what stage of life you are in or what you do, be it good, bad or indifferent. 
Stay focused and positive you will see the best in the end and you will experience snapshots along the way.  Remember, to stop and take a mental picture you will need to reflect on it again during a not so good time.  So when you spot someone negative coming your way, get your mind prepared and guarded if you are unable to avoid them and be ready.  Say to yourself, ‘I don’t receive this negativity.  If you only knew, my future is so bright you should be wearing shades!’  Now that will keep a smile on your face during the entire exchange with them.  Remember, negativity can only flourish if you feed it! We will give negativity our stamp of disapproval with two thumbs down!

Ready, Take, ACTION!!!

How many times have we put off what we need to do today until tomorrow or for some indefinite date in the future?  I have and far too many times than I can count.  We do that to gain more time to do something that we find more pleasurable at the time.  Now looking back, how beneficial was that action?  Not really too beneficial, just delayed my progress and gave me more to do when the time actually came.

I was ready but how ready?  As I stated earlier, I wasn't too ready.  It is true that some things we do need to put off until another day to accomplish more important things.  We of course know the difference between the two, I think that we just act as if we don't.  Hindsight is always 20/20 and foresight sadly at times is not recognizable.  If we glean from our past actions we will discover that we have indeed wasted valuable time and energy.

Now is the time to act, take hold of the future that you see and desire!!  We must be bold and ready.  Not accepting the excuses that we so randomly convince ourselves of at times.  Create a vision, read it daily, align the aspects of your life to reach your vision.  Understanding that some avenues are now closed roads and others have been freshly paved others rocky but it is a road you must travel.  Stay encouraged and navigate carefully, while staying focused at all times.  

With the above in mind get Ready to Take the necessary roads and demonstrate your determination to achieve your destiny with ACTION!!!!

Choices... life...

As I sat there I began to wonder about all the things that life has to offer.  I wondered why are there people who do not achieve things and others that break down barriers.  It seems that they are so extremely different categories.  I realized that everyone is giving the same opportunities in the form of a personal choice.  We all may not have the financial backing that others have, nonetheless, we have a will and a choice.  

How bad do you want it?  What are you willing to do to reach your goals?  Did you know that becoming a successful person is actual a fear that people have?  Yes, it is.  It seems strange however, some people associate wealth with problems, while the great majority, in my opinion, think of wealth as a welcome friend from a long vacation!!

Nothing is neither good or bad alone, it is only when we as people take hold of it and decide from there what we will or will not do with what we have received.  The good or bad of anything is actually given its definition from the person that is in control of those things.  So, yes wealth can be problems, if the person that gains it doesn't understand the purpose of what they have and the power that comes along with it.

We are all equal when it comes to this choice that we have all been given.  Make great choices for your life depends on it.

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